But it's only fair
That I let you know that
The man you're in love with
He;s mine
From the top of his head
To the bottom of his feet
The bed he sleeps in and
Every piece of food he eats
you see I make it possible
The clothes on his back
Ha ha, I buy them
The car he drives
I pay the note every month
So I'm telling you these things
To let you know how much
I love this man and woman to woman
I think you'll understand
How much I'll do to keep him

If she's subscribe to CHUBB then does that mean CHUBB is gonna be there when she wakes up from a nightmare and is shit scared?

CHUBB only protects or rather tries to defend one after the threat to their lives have occured. Bad dreams are not a threat and mere insecurity in a place they not used to doesn't qualify either.

all those roles that u shud play as a man are still there, i still NEED them but not in their entirety i guess.

The world we live in has afforded them Edumcashun > Access to Wealth. This means they can DO for themselves. It unfortunately means that they don't NEED men to provide for them.

They provide for themselves, they have Chubb to protect, they have banks to reProduce (some choose not to reProduce). Lol. So Marriage is obsolete (in the sense of need ).

But it sure feels good to be WANTED y'all. I ain't gon' lie --
I'd rather have a woman that wants me than needs me any day -- but I digress ...

Men just have to adjust their roles to something akin to partnering, collaboration -- togetherness [ke ntho e nice no?]

Equality is out of the question. Nature didn't make us equal. So there is a place for men . Even if they have the guy at the Chubb Control Room that they pay to "protect" them physically, it's not the same as "feeling safe". That's something that your presence, and comfort can provide for her.

As for the dudes that "make" women cover their expenses -- they're not men, I do not speak of them.

@Kabelo. I am glad you pointed the most crucial part about the whole conversation.
We were lucky cause our pos or at the very least our grand dads are old school niggas and we got a chance to watch them do their thing. This is mostly the reason why the male role has change because even us dudes didnt entirely agree with some of the stuff they did.

But now the generation we are giving birth to will not get the chance to view we saw and hence confusion will occur and with confusion comes panick which ultimately gives birth to war.

So going forward from the mistakes the old tymas made how have we structured ourselves as a male figure?

What I have learnt with the obsession of refering to the past is that elders made a decidion according to the circumstances and stuck to it, should your situation not be able to accomodate it you as an elder and most importantly one responsible for your life you changed it.

So its a case of make do with what you got.

If she can afford to take you to Pigale, prepare a home cooked meal for her.

On a serious note, different relations have their nuances and I don't think the one set of rules apply for all scenarios. Couples should decide what works for them: communication.

mhh, its complex this thing i guess

And to send it into a spiral, we wont be stepping down from our roles if we are indeed equal ---

My point is, women general go with what suites their situation ---

I dont know if y'all get me

Ow just off the topic. someone pposed this topic today he had a fall out with his girl.

"If a woman when angry expresses her right by slapping punching and screaming at me. Why is it wrong for me as a man to display my anger back the best way I know how to."
(his best way was him beating the living light bulbs out of her, luckily only a fractured rib and an assault charge, could have been worse)