So I get a chat/massege on my Blackberry Chat last night from a friend and it made me think ... so read it and let me know your thoughts on this...
SORRY SUM FOLKS NEED HELP OR REMINDING.... lol...
Sex Tips 4 Men not boys!!
- Foreplay is good jus don't do it for so long*...* #: -s
- Don't insist on making a girl cum if she's not going to - don't force it, let it happen naturally - hey at least u did ;)
- Going on about how great the sex was, is a TURN OFF she already knows she doesn't need 2 b reminded 8-|
- Oral SEX don't do it unless you know what your doing X_X and don’t act like you don’t do it either - jus get on your knees and do the damn thing!!
- Forget licking her neck SUCK ON IT>=)
- DO NOT lay out a list of positions that you want to do before sex trust me she will dry up real quick. Surprise her: p
- DIRTY talk definitely a TURN ON :D
- Don't b shy to slap her ass or pull her hair SHE LOVES it every girl is a freak secretly>=) (Not me :> =)))
- Feel free 2 moan u know u want to;)=))
- Don’t b afraid 2 surprise her throw her on the bed strip her off.she will be shocked but also TURNED ON!! <3 <3 X_X =))
If u Follow these rules you will be crowned a sex god!! <=-P =-c
LADIES if u agree pass it on GENTLEMEN pass it on 2 your fellow peers share the secrets to what WOMEN want:
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Whateva — these are tips for boys and girls.
If you is a man or woman, you already know none of these rules matter, sex is sex, no formula, what happens naturally, flows naturally without the mental confines of rules.
Am a young man but i agree le lebogang on this one | marago ke marago | i say that these are for young girl teenagers who still have fantasies about the perfect way of having sex
So all in all | turn her ON and tap that eish.
What Lebogang said
I say get to know your woman coz everyone is different... What might work for me wont for the next. Get to know the one you with, what gets her going or well coming hehehe!
lol, i used to think that sex was all bout a bed of roses and had to do with romance, yada yada ya. until u start having it n u realise that thats just all a bunch of crap coz it can happen in the most unromantic setting but if u in the moment u there.
rules dont always apply
i agree with lebogang & karabo, just like those articles in FHM, Men's Health etc about how to please. its all good in theory, sex should happen naturally otherwise you're just doing a practical lesson.
I am 19
Bugzy ki la ka leo....just let it happen .The sooner the better.
in a perfect world i would say just let it happen. U shouldnt have checklist in mind when having sex... BUT then again, some people really do need help & guidance, bt then again, its difference strokes...
i myt like 1 thing, bt the chick b4 liked it another way. Communication is the answer....not lists
xoxo
I think that theres so much pressure on guys performing during sexual intercourse. While i was in cape town [during a discussion] some said "that men have to please the girl by the first round" ... but now the question is with all this pressure on men's performance ... how about the females?
I dnt know bout other girls, bt sometyms i feel pressure 2. Its not meant 2 b that way, but it is. I just think women put more emphasis on the man performing cos it takes longer 4 us 2 get off & its a lil more tricky...
Okay, this is what I think:
Do you while you do me, you fcuk up you ain't fc*king with me no more. Bring your rules too, just be careful I don't flip them on you while you flip me flipping you.
I'm a grown ass woman and have learned the basics - that is all you need after all.
P.S. High expectations are always the problem. Surprise each other.
#asuwere
you know whats the funniest thing i heard "is that women can make themselves climax within two minutes" but its not the same when they are with a partner ... they take longer [which is mind boggling]
i think the pressure comes from guys trying to prove something, make it into a competition or a race... like "i wanna rock her that when she sees me she hides" you know stupid ish like that. and i agree with Queen K too that communication is also the answer, just talking cause you learn a lot about a person by talking to them.
@ Mellow ... eeer, that sounds like a rap track "Do you while you do me, you fcuk up you ain't fc*king with me no more."
*hides
@GG u heard right.
truth be told gone are those days when guys had to do most of the work in the sack, the honest truth is that "on top" is one of the best positions for gals and if u gon rock it like that u gotta do some bumping n grinding.
LMAO! @bumping n grinding.
*hides
@GG haha, its not a line from any track. Its just the way I do my business ;). Ppl like to complicate sex and its the most basic thing ever, unless you're a porn*
And ooh, its no myth what you heard about girls pleasuring themselves G, it happens, almost everyday to be honest. *doesn't hide, does the B boy pose. WHAT!
The list is interesting in that a few years back parts of it would probably be considered satanic or something... but its great guidelines (not a rule book!) just remember to take it all with a healthy pinch of, ehm, ass. *great picture couldn't help myself
@Mellow - Oh yeah! ... but another thing is you never get guys setting rules about sex - we dont even have the time to even break it down ...
@Mellow.... WHAT!!! everyday, that would be a good way to learn what a girl wants by watching her pleasure herself in front of you. *making a mental note
@Bugzy Yep, its advised by Gynaecologists, seriously. It's such power being able to get yourself to that level. Its an amazing feeling knowing that you don't have to depend on another person to feel THAT way. A lot of women haven't had an orgasm and they don't even know it yet. Get to know when a girl is faking it and your sex life will never be the same again. Youll know the difference between a girl and a woman.
I read up about such. Google 'A girl's guide to 21st Century Sex', its an eye opener. I have the DVD ;)
Mistakes women make in bed
http://8916.co.za/?p=358
@mellow i have the dvd too.
i wasn big on self pleasure until a friend dragged me to an adult world n suggested i get a clit stimulator and trust me its the best present iv gotten myself in a while.
question for the guys tho, if yal had to turn the list around what would yal add?
@Seilatsatsi every woman needs a toy of some sort. Its the only way to learn and discover yourself. Heck I got one too ;)
what i wish most guys would get is that by introducing a toy to ur sex life takes nothing away from his performance but it compliments the whole experience. im still trying to understand what most guys have against it.
@Selatsatsi AMEN. Meeting adjourned.
@Seilatsatsi and Mellow what kinda toys are we talking about here?
hmmm, this is very enlightening - i knew nothing of these interesting things you guys talk about ...
@Mosa - toys such as clit stimulators and vibrators. the best is just to suck it up n cough up for a vibrator that comes with a clit stimulator attached. or start small with just the stimulator at about R180-R250 and looking at bout R400 and above for the combination.
gal just walk into adult worls n the likes and have a look.
sumn like this: http://www.weirdasianews.com/2008/07/16/japanese-men-are-taking-sex-into-their-own-hands/
@GGM... we are being schooled man, interesting stuff!
@Mosa while you're still saving up, try with your own fingers and if it feels good then go for it. Some girls get very uncomfortable, YES, even alone. If you've never had an orgasm before it will 'shock you a bit but after a while it starts becoming...what can we call it...like a bedtime story, lullaby, etc
NIKE. Just Do It!
@Mosa - its guaranteed awesomeness, lmfao
@Seilatsatsi hahahahaha
I dig this discussion! LOL
I read "The mistakes woman make" I like this 1
Mistakes women make in bed #4
You’re too insecure
You want the lights off, you have to be under the covers and you never want to take off your shirt. Yeah, that sounds like some really exciting sex.
I like this 1 to!
Mistakes women make in bed #8
You don’t shave
I was not aware of this, but apparently many women still haven’t mastered the art of landscaping down there. And while no one’s asking you to wax down to a landing strip, it would be nice for you to at least trim that bush.
Whether you wax, laser or shave your bikini area, you need to invest in sideburn trimmers and trim your pubic hairs down to one centimeter so that when he goes down on you, he doesn’t feel like he’s going to suffocate.
Hahahaha!!
@Seilatsatsi and Mello hehehe my birthday is around the corner!
Question: if the guy is doing something wrong how do you tell him? Well at least without killing the mood...
@Mellow - LMAO! @like a bedtime story, lullaby
*hides far away ...
@Mosa judging by the list of mistakes we make in bed, dont scream yes n dont moan it he aint hitting it, lol.
seriously tho, which ever way u do it be kind n gentle. initiate what ud like done to u, talk bout it but just choose the right words.
@Mosa re: the man issue. If men knew half the things they are doing wrong they would start calling us names, I swear. It also depends if his your boyfriend or a freelancer*. Boyfriend will need to know what hes doing wrong because, sadly enough, he'll be back later on in the night to repeat his mistakes...on you...or under you, hehe. But yeah, its never easy to tell guys hence women automatically fake orgasms.
Maybe @Seilatsatsi can help
@GG any suggestions how to we can convey the msg without deflating the EGO?
@mellow - "sadly enough, he'll be back later on in the night to repeat his mistakes...on you...or under you" kwakwakwakwakwa
i think showing us would be a good way to learn and what Mosa said about moaning and screaming yes if we not hitting the spot, that also would way to pick up what we are doing wrong.
Ok so showing rather than telling? @Bugzy?
like our friend here (@studio_83) would say, get drunk n get laid, in that order.
have a lovely weekend yal.
@mosa - holla when u go toy shopping, lol
Cos telling can be tricky, you have to choose your words to avoid bruising the Ego and make us follow your lead you know move my hands to where you want to be touched/stroked in a subtle kind of way.
@Bugzy clears throat your last sentence was quite, aahh, clears throat
@mellow and @mosa
here is what I know, there is some beauty (and arousal) in a woman suggesting ways to get stuff done — there is great pleasure is pleasing a girl.
I'd prefer if a she didn't say "nugga (assuming she ain't white, LOL) what are you doing?", and rather say (or suggest via hand or body movement): do this, touch this, lick that, blah, blah, blah...
@lebogang I just took my notebook out and used a pencil instead of a pen...just in case rules change, you never know. I hear you though.
Communication is Indication!
@mellow, that's true — in fact they should change, constantly, you know, for that 'oh-my-god' experience of it all.
/smile
@lebogang I nod to that ;)
Yah, so basically communication is the solution ... ive taken notes [for research of course] ...
@Mellow - i think showing him by moaning when he hits the spot is the way ... coz talking about it creates too much pressure to perform and as far as i know no ones wants to perform under pressure ... i think also couples or freelancers need to take time and they will find their way to please each other *me thinks
@GG now we get somewhere, yes Sir. Moaning it is, I'll try to remember that ;)
Yeah, and also what interesting with these is that we learn new things specially with "Round Table" topics ... which is great we are better than we were this morning *bow
i have been enjoying this round table i must say
my 2 cents: to the men, it doesn't help when you've already told yourself that you can tear that ass up, when it's your first time with said ass. so ego's left at the door with your smelly sneakers please.
and i agree with Mellow and Mosa, the key to knowing what you want, is to find it out yourself. (so that you can be the GPS for your boy)
i touch myself too *she hides, giggling like a school girl
LMAO! @smelly sneakers please [we assume rappers]
*hides too then giggles
only on the Round Table baby.... only on the Round Table!
kakakakaka smelly sneakers... but @Writer Chick sometimes tell yourself that you gonna blow that p&&*$& into oblivion is good, you get to hype yourself and in a way set a goal and once you score you feel like a Mini-god
I am kinda married these days and so the ball game changes. I mean I know exactly what my wife wants, how were and on which days, but however she over subscribes to mistakes #2 (ignoring the twin gentlemen) & #3 (Not initiating). I can live without #2 but I have used #3 against her (it was hard) but she still hasn't come round to demanding her marital rights.
I think I see our issue after all this informative back & forth (@Mello & @seilatsatsi) we don't communicate about all them bump and grind things.
I now get that communication is lubrication.
Going home now.